As my thirties have begun, I’ve noticed that, in some ways, dating is as difficult and scary as it ever was in my twenties. The challenges are certainly the same except it feels like I had a blindfold on while trying to tackle them for the past decade. Now that…

I use he/him/they/them pronouns! I’ve never discussed my they/them pronouns on social media before, partly because there’s times where I honestly just want the concept of gender to go away altogether; it seems to cause more harm than good, at least in the circles I run in, but also partly…

Earlier this month, I hopped into a car with six queer strangers I met through a ride share page. We drove three and a half hours north of NYC to the small town of Barre, Massachusetts, where we’d spend the next five days or so amongst more queer strangers. We…

It is #worldmentalhealthday … which, honestly, feels a bit odd to me since mental health has become such a fundamental part of my life, personally & professionally. There’s the obvious role that mental health plays in my conversations with clients 3 days a week & then there’s the subtle underscoring…

“Hi, my name is Brian Falduto, and I’ve never missed an episode of Survivor in forty-two seasons.” Ever been forced to come up with a fun fact about yourself for an icebreaker? This has always been mine. Recently, I took my nerdy Survivor fandom to the next level. I journeyed…

I love who I am when I’m traveling. I’ve been doing a lot of it lately and have been reflecting on the flow state I’m able to tap into when I’m in what I like to call “Vacation Brian” mode. When asked what I love the most about traveling, my…

Thinking back, what are the highlights of my 20’s? Make a list. Coming out. My surprise Survivor-themed 30th birthday party. “A very ferry surprise” (21st). Discovering a love & a gift for songwriting. Creating a band. Expanding my music network. Bringing talented people together for a purpose. Deciding to become…

They say a picture’s worth a thousand words. But what if every time we uploaded a picture to Instagram, we also had to post the stream of consciousness that accompanied it? When Covid hit the states, I had an empathetic and anxiety-induced response of concern for humanity that lasted several…

Nearly three years ago, and about 14 years after I became the reluctant recipient of the title “that gay kid from School of Rock,” I decided to do a figurative coin flip on the way I was approaching my life. It was a gamble, but I knew I could either…